How To Find True Happiness
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We can find happiness right in our own home, our workplace, in school, in the company of our friends, etc. It is up to us to find the ways and means to achieve that happiness each of us seek and long for. However, it is essential to recognize that there is no one absolute way to achieve happiness. People may have different ideas with regard to the ways of achieving happiness.

The following classifications are perceived by many people as sources of happiness:

(1) Family and friends

(2) Wealth

(3) Position/Rank

(4) Educational Achievement

(5) Fame (i.e. politics, arts, sports)

The very first place where happiness dwells is right in our own homes. We find happiness just by being with our family – our parents, spouse, children and grandchildren. In fact, they are our source of strength and inspiration. Having a harmonious home life gives us happiness – one that we truly cherish and treasure.

True friends are also a source of happiness. The support we get from them goes a long way in helping us to get by in times of troubles. Somehow, friends make our life complete.

A lot of people associate wealth with happiness. Almost everywhere in the world, people are preoccupied in the acquisition of wealth. They look upon wealth as the main source of happiness. To some, wealth and happiness are synonymous.

Not that we should despise the rich and the famous or discourage others from aspiring to be so. There is nothing wrong with dreaming of becoming rich just as long as we acknowledge that wealth has limitations. Furthermore, our priorities must be clear from the very start. Clearly, we must know what should rank first in order of priorities lest we spend our days in this world meaninglessly and without hope. The pursuit of material riches should not be on top of our priority list.

How many times have we heard of people with millions of money but are willing to give it away just to have peace of mind? They live in a state of fear, that is, fear of losing their wealth through robbery or theft. They also fear for their life and the lives of those they love. These fears may even lead to sleepless nights, stress, tension, mental anguish, heart attack and death.

Understanding and accepting that happiness has nothing to do with the accumulation of wealth is perhaps the most liberating realization we can ever come to.

Can real happiness be achieved through the attainment of high rank or position in society?

To many, the answer is “yes.” For most people, having a high-ranking position is synonymous to power. Such persons would have the power to rule and lead. If they become “good leaders,” they would be able to lead based on sound moral values and good work ethics. In return, they would earn their people’s trust, obedience, support, loyalty and cooperation. Eventually, they would find happiness and satisfaction doing their job.

However, any person who is entrusted with authority and abuses it would definitely be responsible for misuse of power. His position would only be a source of misery, as he will be confronted with issues such as corruption and problems like loss of public trust, public revolt, coups d’etat, etc.

History can speak for itself. How many unwanted rulers, kings, emperors, and presidents have been overthrown? A good example is former Philippine President Ferdinand Marcos, who ruled the country for 20 long years, but his reign came to an unfortunate end. He was “thrown” out of his own country by his own people and spent years thereafter in exile.

Can earning the highest level of education such as doctorate degrees give happiness? For people who derive happiness from learning, knowledge is power. Some successful people have attained high levels of education.

However, we hear about professional people who are successful in their own fields and yet feel miserable and depressed because they feel that something is missing in their life. We hear of doctors being sued for malpractice and negligence, of judges committing suicide, and of many other sad stories that are hard to believe but are actually happening to professional people. Does education really guarantee happiness?

Fame is also associated with happiness. In sports and various careers, it is translated to victory, winning, and attaining the status of a celebrity. Are famous men and women happy?

Let’s take the case of sportsmen. They practically devote their whole lifetime practicing to be the best at their chosen sport. However, sports can sometimes be so stressful, especially when they are carried to the extreme. Imagine the kind of pressure sportsmen have to go through to win over a game. To cope with high expectations, they take prohibited drugs to have the stamina and endurance required in their chosen field!

Consider the despair, embarrassment, shame, and ridicule that they have to endure whenever they lose a game! So, let us ask ourselves – can a life exposed to such pressures and humiliation be a truly happy life?

The story of the famous football player, Diego Maradona, is a very good example. For a time, his name was everywhere - in media and on almost all advertisements. Football earned him “wealth” and “fame.” But what caused his downfall? He used cocaine during an Italian league match! Consequently, he was arrested.

Let’s focus our attention in the field of entertainment, specifically film and stage actors, singers, dancers, etc. Is the world of entertainment a source of true happiness?

It is surprising how many people still equate happiness with fun. The truth is that fun and happiness have little or nothing in common. Fun is short-lived while happiness is a more lasting and meaningful emotion.

Going to a ball game, watching a movie or television are fun activities that may help us relax. We “escape” and temporarily forget our problems. After the movie or any fun activities, reality sets in and we confront the same problems. There are things that do not and could not bring any real happiness to the person because their positive effects last only as long as the fun lasts.

Let us analyze fun and entertainment around us. It is a well-known fact that these so-called celebrities have practically everything that “seems to spell happiness” – wealth, glamour, fancy cars, expensive homes, etc. However, it is also no secret that beneath all their fame are stories about depression, alcoholism, drug addiction, children out of wedlock, broken marriages, extra marital affairs, etc. It is said that Elvis Presley, the undisputed King of Rock n Roll, died of drug overdose.

For many, the future is bleak. The continuing escalation of prices, natural and man-made calamities, terrorism, local and global strife, family problems, poverty, criminality, famines and other crises do bring desperation and hopelessness.

What they believe as solutions to their problems turned out to be abysmal frustrations. Sad to say, many have become withdrawn and apathetic to their problems. Some have become indifferent and unconcerned about what could happen next because they have done everything in their power to succeed, but to no avail.

Can we still find happiness in such a depressing situation? Yes, it is still possible to find happiness in such dire predicaments! What happens around us is largely beyond our control, but the way we choose to react is within our control. In short, even in the midst of difficulties in life, we can still make happiness happen; that is, if we want and choose to make it happen. True enough, life is what we make it! Isn’t this a wonderful discovery?

Second key to happiness: Happiness is found within us. It depends on the choices that we make.